When you shift the belief beneath the habit, the habit itself begins to transform.
So often, we try to change our habits by focusing only on what we do, setting goals, creating plans, and relying on willpower to stay consistent.
And yet, many of us have experienced the same cycle:
We start strong, only to find ourselves returning to old patterns.
Why does this happen?
Because habits are not just behaviors. They are rooted in something deeper. They are shaped by our mindset (what we believe), our skillset (how we act), and our motivation (what drives us). At the core of it all are the subconscious beliefs quietly guiding our choices.
When those beliefs are aligned, change can feel natural and sustainable. When they are not, even our best efforts can feel like a struggle.
This is where the real work of transformation begins, not by forcing new habits, but by understanding and shifting what is underneath them.
Here is Robin’s story that illustrates how shifting what’s underneath a habit can change everything.
Robin:
Sally (not her real name) was frustrated that she once again was overlooked for a promotion. She believed that her boss did not respect her or her work (her mindset). She did not Step Up to ask her boss what she needed to do differently instead she continued to do her job (her skillset). Yet, she did not take any extra steps to demonstrate her interest in the next level job that she actually saw as more aligned with her interests (her motivation).
In our discussion, she realized that her own perception was holding her back, whether with the current organization or another one. Using the PSYCH-K® approach, she shifted her beliefs to ‘I respect myself.’ ‘I am respected.’ ‘My work is respected.’ And, ‘It is safe for me to ask for a promotion.’
She noticed that she felt more confident going into her office and spoke differently during meetings. She met with the boss, naturally expressed her desire for the next level opportunity and received guidance about that. The boss stated, “I was waiting for you to ask.”
Remember (Want To) is your powerful motivation. If it is not aligned with (What To) and (How To), your intentions may not be met. Make sure your (Want To) is a conscious choice and not a habitual reaction to old stories.